April 2012
10 posts
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Speed dating
I am always on the lookout for trying out new things, doubly so now that I am single. I decided to sign myself up for a speed dating event; something I had never done before, but always was curious about. I googled “speed dating” for my area and the first result was a company that organizes “European style” speed dating evenings. I have no idea what “European...
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Back in the game
The first month after the break up with Lily was a really rough time for me. I was upset with what happened, and upset with myself for letting it happen. Of course, I was also in no condition to be dating for a while. Two good things came out of this though:
First, because of the support we offered each other through our difficulties, my relationship with Dharma improved tremendously; to the...
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Surely not another breakup...
After Christmas, things started going south between Lily and me, as soon as we were back to our normal routines. I am not going to go into details about the times that we had during this period and all the stages through which our relationship devolved. Suffice is to say that about a month later Lily broke it off. I was fairly blindsided by this development, and Lily made things worse by flat out...
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Meet the parents
I think Lily and I had gone out on 5 dates, when we took our first trip together. Do I hear “too soon” from the background? No, dear reader, as you are probably realizing by now, this was not even remotely “out there” enough for us. For this trip, I actually joined her on a weekend she went to visit her parents.
Lily hails from a neighboring state, from a small, rural,...
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The Talk
I will take a break from Lily’s story to discuss what I have discovered to be a typical characteristic of dating in the USA: the need for the Talk. But first a little disclaimer: I have been told a couple of times that people enjoyed my posts because “I stick it to the Americans”. That is not what I am trying to accomplish here. I am a foreigner in the USA, and I have lived as a...
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Safe sex
Between texting, instant messaging and emails, Lily and I were in touch pretty much all of our free time since day one. I guess this goes against every advice ever given on how much contact one should have with someone they just met, but it made sense for us at the time. We agreed pretty early on that neither of us does things by the rule book. It certainly helped with the fact that finding time...
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How I met Lily
I have made it pretty clear I hope by now that I consider myself fairly inexperienced when it comes to dating, and that I am not particularly good with women. Still, human beings learn best by trial and error, and throughout these stories, things will come up here and there that I will think may prove useful advice for other people. Starting today, I will point out these invaluable pieces of...
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Online dating
Soon after my break up with Dharma, it dawned on me that this was an opportunity to try online dating for the first time. Interestingly, the idea came from Dharma herself. I could remember that at the start of our relationship she would tell me stories of her experiences with online dating, and that she really liked it and had a lot of fun with it.
Online dating is appealing to me on multiple...
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First contact
The break up with Dharma was a pretty difficult time, but an immediate benefit was that I now had my weekends back. One of the things that I can only do on weekends is play basketball, which is an activity I love. Exactly a week after Dharma and I broke up, I was at the gym playing hoops. From there, I went to a nearby large supermarket to have lunch and buy drinks for rehydration. That’s...
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It begins
My girlfriend of 3 years - let’s call her Dharma - broke up with me in the beginning of October 2011. As break ups go, I have to say this one went pretty well. We could both see it coming for some time, and we always had good communication in our relationship, so we avoided some of the usual drama. Still, a break up is a break up: Dharma and I had moved together from Europe to the USA a year...
