July 2012
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Guest post: American woman
So here’s the big revelation: I have spent a big chunk of my life in England. As a result, I still have a love/hate relationship with all things English. As in, I bitch about them all the time, but secretly love them to death. Many of the blogs I follow come from the UK, and Jon’s The Things I’ve Done to Impress Women, is unequivocally one of my favorites. So when Jon offered to...
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We're all friends here
When Cyrus was in town, I of course took the opportunity to take him out and show him the nightlife around here. One of these evenings, we went for dinner, then met with Alex at The Bar for a live performance of a local band.
The Bar is a hangout for many of my friends; that night I immediately spotted Evan right in front of the stage, enjoying the music. Amongst my friends, Evan is the closest...
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In a bit of a pickle
Recently, Dharma asked me this question:
“Where are you going with this path?”
She was referring to my newly-found focus on socializing and dating since our break up (or more accurately, since my break up with Lily). I gave her a threefold answer:
1) After the break ups I felt lost and uncertain about who I really was. I am trying to lead a single lifestyle, until I feel that I have...
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Okcupid chronicles #1
I’ve said this before, but I’ve pretty much grown tired of okcupid. Because of this I now try to just have fun with my profile. To this effect, I recently changed two of my answers to the standard profile questions to the following:
On a typical Friday night I am
doing what I do every night: try to take over the world!
The most private thing I am willing to admit
I am...
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Throwing up all Sunday
Most of the time, when I write that “I met someone in a bar”, it is one specific bar I am talking about. It is a relatively well-known singles bar, conveniently located downtown. I like the environment, they play live music a couple times a week and I have lots of friends who frequent it, so I am there often, even though it can turn into a meat-market sometimes. Since so many of my...
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Retro stories: the girls next door
In my blog, I tell the stories of my dating adventures. The key element is that these are my stories, from my point of view, influenced by my morality and my perception of reality. Invariably, I come off looking like the good guy (or so I hope). I am certain that if one were to ask the women that appear in my posts though, they would have a different story to tell. Still, I want to be as accurate,...
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Not-so-mixed signals
I first published a version of this story under the title “Mixed signals” 2 months ago, violating two important rules of my blog: “don’t write about ongoing relationships”, and “don’t write without some distance from the events”. Thinking back, I probably also violated an important rule of life: “don’t write when you’ve just had a...
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To kiss or not to kiss
A few weeks ago, I was at a birthday party in a bar with my friend Alex. I didn’t know anyone there; Alex was the one who knew the birthday boy, as well as many of the guests. I did my best to mingle with the crowd; it wasn’t difficult since we were late to the party and everyone was already pretty buzzed. I went back and forth and got to know some of the people there. As I was talking...
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Hawaiian tropic
Cyrus and Greg are finally back from Hawaii.
We climbed mountains and swam with fish. We marveled equally at the stars and at the corals. We looked down at clouds and up at waterfalls. But most importantly, we talked to people.
People like Tiny, the towering van driver that took me from the airport to the hotel. He poured out his love for Hawaii, and set the tone for the entire trip.
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We are girls
Some highlights from Cyrus’ and Greg’s ongoing Hawaiian adventure:
We spent a morning getting a pedicure and painting our toenails.
We spent an evening shopping, not for us, but to help a friend pick out some clothes.
We went out for cocktails. Several times.
We bought sarongs.
Today’s plan is to go and watch the sun set.
Yesterday, we had this discussion: Greg:...
